Question by Jasmyn S: Any one Armenian please look but any help will do?
I was born in the US so I am very understanding and used to other cultures and believes, my husband on the other hand is right out of Yeravan and of course loves his people and his culture as he should. This sounds cute but its becoming a problem. I am not complaining because he is proud, but because I am told everyday that I am not good enough because I am not Armenian. Well what did you marry me for? HELLO!!! Also, he is Armenian and anyone who knows them really knows them. The alcohal, the smoking ext…. its fine but it consumes him…. the man doesnt even work a real job, while I am studying to be Christian for our children….. How do I knock some scence (american) into him? Oh and if I hear the term “niger” (no offence to anyone) one more time Im gonna snap
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Answer by Vernon Dozier
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Originally posted 2011-08-18 08:45:19.
i did not follow that and am too confused to read it again
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You need to remind your husband that he married a strong American woman and that he should worship th ground you walk on and be lucky to have you.
How you wrote out your question, the fire behind it, Girl, stand up for yourself. If you had an American husband, would you take this crap from him? I think not.
Just because you live in the Us doesnt mean your “understanding and used to other cultures”
honestly he sounds to far gone if i were you id let him go there is nothing it seems you can do he is in american he needs to understand that if he has such a problem tell him its very easy to fix he go home.as for you if hes putting you down id tell him to take a damn good look at himself then judge any one else mainly his own wife he is way out of line and needs to know that he doesnt work he drinks and does god knows what else and while he does that id remind him of his own belifes and so on it sounds like you need to tell him to get the hell out
I answered your other post and will add this Dump him and let him go get an Armenian women,, Maybe she will accept his attitude and lazyness
It’s so difficult when people are the way they are because of their culture, because we have to understand it’s due to their environment, but we just can’t always agree! I’ve met Hispanics who are disrespectful towards women, and they say it has to do with culture (machismo). Well, your culture is WRONG for making women slaves and pieces of meat!!!
Lol, ANYWAY, the point of my rambling is that it is really frustrating to be around someone who has such ignorant views, no matter if it’s because of their culture or not. I say, get out and find someone who respects you and isn’t so arrogant. Plus, you don’t need someone who is consumed by drinking and smoking. I have to wonder… did you know him very long before you married him?
you just asked this question 23 min ago
lead by example
or if he doesnt stop..leave him
You can’t, when you married him did he act the same way. His drinking and smoking is not becuase he is Armenian, is because this is the person that he is. Not all Armenians drink and smoke. The whole thing about not being good enough, that is comming out from his family. I know that his mother and friends are telling him that you married an Odar. The truth is simple, if you want everything to stop, move out of Glendale, or even better out of LA, where there are less Armenians. In the other hand if you want make him happy learn the Armenian culture, learn Armenian, go to ARMENIAN church with him.
You should make it clear that he should not be using offensive terms around you or your children. You sound like a strong woman- it’s up to you to protect your dignity as well. You are not any less of a person because you are not Armenian. We are ALL created equal. Remind him that if he calls himself a Christian he should know that. If he continues to degrade you, maybe you should try couples therapy, and, if that doesn’t work- get a divorce. Marriages where both parties cannot respect each other are in trouble.
It sounds to me that you need a plan of action. Your children shouldn’t be around that alcohol/smoking/non working atmosphere. Show him and your children that you are serious about the welfare of the family. Take a deep breath, say a prayer to guide your words & sit him down and explain to him how you feel. Ask him to pretend he’s in your shoes/to try to see it your way… Explain that you want him to join you in your quest to see that your children grow up in the best possible surroundings. If he doesn’t even try to see things your way and want to change then you and your children would be better off without him. As you well know if you are studying to be a Christian, that the church and other Christians are there for you. Pray, let God and your heart guide you. Good Luck & God Bless =)
I failed to see what was cute about the fact he keeps saying you are not good enough. It is one thing if you know he meant it in jest, but whole other level if you know he meant it as a division of the cultural differences
Whenever he says this, in your most calm voice and softest voice, “I know I am not Armenian. What were the reasons you felt I was good enough for to be married to YOU?” Don’t forget to ask yourself what were the reasons he was good enough to marry you. It does go both ways
This should help him remember the reasons he married you and he should state it. Otherwise, my darling, you are receiving verbal and emotional abuse and if it continues, you will need to evaluate the worth of continuing the relationship and the examples it sets for your children because the father of your children should ALWAYS respect the mother of his children as I believe it is the standard in MOST cultures (not ALL but MOST) and I know Armenians and Americans are brought up to respect their mothers in each their cultures
You should turn yourself into Armenian and not you turning your hasbund into Armenian.
Armenia #1
Wow, he’s an arrogant @sshole and he doen’t even have a job. Are you sure about that? He probably does something for his “family” and is stowing money. Check your mattress.
Anyway, that’s the problem with different cultures marrying. They’re just…different. Hell, that’s the problem with different cultures getting along. Years and years of beliefs pounded into their heads by their forefathers. You married an old time Armenian whose ideas are pretty well planted. Marriage is about compromise and I don’t think he’s ever heard that in his life.
Regardless of what culture it is, you married someone who is so entrenched in their beliefs and family that they are pushing you away. You don’t have to stand for that. You deserve respect as a person. Don’t let him make you feel like less of a person. If only people would realize that WE ARE ALL HUMAN.
Ha ha, funny story. I give you
a 10 for fictional contribution,
I also give you a 10 for comic
relief. I give you 0 for honesty
and another 0 for wasting my
time.
You even forgot to mention this
time you were an Arab who is Muslim
that is what makes this story
even more hilarious, next what will
you be when you retell your little story
a Buddhist from Africa.
wow it seems for some reason every one goes out of their way to ONLY mention that Armenians are the ones who do wrong things.
as if other cultures are 100% perfect.
com on, it is kind of lame and silly, it is getting kind of boring
we had almost the same question from another person
here it is
My husband beats me and hurts me. He calls me a fat Irish pig. He’s Armenian-American.?
He thinks ARmenian people are better than regular people. He used to be married to his cousin and he wants to go back to her because he’s Armenian. Help!
ah please you live in America, are you trying to say u do not know what to do.
yes you do, and we know it.
YOU ARE ANOTHER BIG TROLL
one thing that you are not is Christian,so please do not embrace the rest of us.
OK so you are Arab and Muslim and your husband is Armenian and christian, right?
How come after all these years and having children you got to the a point that your husband is not good man, an why do you want to teach Christianity to your children children.
It does not make sense, it look like a big fat lie to me, try to find something else, obviously you a are new clone here.
And not every American is understanding, from where did you get that understanding…lol.
one more thing, I don’t think you are Arab either, you just want to ruin them too.